''As Far As the Bond Right Now, It's Kind of Broken...''
4:00PM ET December 20th, 2010
Contributor : Stephen Willis
A Rocky Williform Company
R&B star Keyshia Cole opened up about her family squabbles and her well-documented estrangement from them during a recent appearance on Atlanta's V-103. Cole admitted that she still loves her family, but doesn't know how to repair the damage that has been done to their relationship.
"The last thing I would want is to mess up someone’s character as a person but what we have going on behind closed doors is a whole ‘nother thing," Cole explained. "A lot of my life has been viewed in the public eye. Everybody knows I really didn’t want them to do the show because I felt like if I wasn’t involved, some things were going to be out in the open that really shouldn’t.
When we did [the initial reality show] “The Way It Is”, I tried to make sure that I allowed them to be them but that we would only displayed certain things [so you could] still tell that they are growing and that they are trying. I just don’t think the last show displayed that too much."
"I love the fact that they did the 'Frankie and Neffe' show," she continued. "I loved the fact that they had that opportunity. There are so many kids out there watching that see me as an artist and this is where I come from. This is my biological family and I just wanted them viewed in the best light that they could. That was my main objective. I was boxed out of the loop and that is why it happened the way it happened. Once everything blew up it was like 'aww man, we made a mistake.'"
"To me, it hurt," Cole added. "I brought ya’ll here and I loved ya’ll with everything that I had but it hurt that you wouldn’t trust me enough to have your best interest at heart."
Cole still doesn't know if she'll ever be able to repair the relationship with her mother and sister. "I’m not a hater. I want everyone to be successful and learn as much in life as they can," she said. "I miss my family. I genuinely miss them. Especially my sister. I miss being able to call on my family and miss that bond. At this point, it’s kind of broke because I don’t know how to accept that. I’ve been praying and asking God to give me wisdom on that situation but that is the only reason why I’d [have a relationship with my family again.] I’ve spoken to Neffe, I speak to my mom and Elite. It’s not that I don’t forgive them, I just don’t know how to step back into that mode after what has happened. I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m here and I love them and I’ll do what I can as far as helping them out but as far as the bond right now, it’s kind of broken."